The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A f chapter 3-5

I would like  to continue review "the subtle art of not giving A f" from chapter 3 until chapter 5 

chapter 3 :  You are not special
in this chapter beginning with jimmy's self-confident story and even too much self-confidence, he is too positive about himself in a book called "Entitlement" that the personality always considers himself great and he feels he must be treated special and also thinks that the world will always work for himself without doing anything.
The author writes that the personality has 2 types:
1. Feeling himself great and others not, then I get special treatment
2. Feeling someone else is great and I am not, so I get special treatment.
Even though it looks different, the point is to want a special treatment. In the manson novel, Jimmy's personality, including number 1 and Mark Manson, exemplifies himself for the second category. He has past traumas related to drugs, families who experience bankruptcy, divorce from parents, so he feels he needs special treatment. But in the end he realized that entitlement was a problem and not good for him.
In my opinion, Mark tries to explain that life treats us, no matter who we are. When we have a problem, it is very likely that everyone has experienced it in the past, or is experiencing the same problem at this time, and may also experience it in the future. Of course in a different form but the same core. This is the highlight of this chapter.

Chapter 4: the value of suffering
The highlight of this chapter is understanding the values we hold. If we want to change how we see a problem, we must change the value we hold and the size of the value itself. And we are also invited to understand which values are good and which values are bad.
When we face difficulties, we can apply the Self-awareness onion method to ourselves. Try to peel each layer of what actually happened. If the values that we believe are good values, then we will see that the difficulties we face today are something that is good for us and will have a positive impact on us. Because self-improvement itself is prioritizing better values, and choosing which things we should make our attention. Because when you give better, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

Chapter 5: You are Always Choosing
In chapter 5, Mark tells the story of William James who has physical limitations and his life is always arranged by his father. Up to one point where he rebelled and chose to live his life regardless of what his father wanted. He decided to responsible for his life. Whatever he chooses for his life he will do and bear all the risks.
Everyone is responsible for his life, no matter what happens around us. This principle is done by William James. Whether for mistakes or not, he will be responsible for the life he chooses. He does not choose to be born imperfect, but he must continue to live his life like everyone else. He also chose to drop out of medical school at Harvard and go on an adventure to the Amazon jungle, still he chose it and responsible of his choices. He knew his father would be angry and choose not to go home, then he chose it. He faced every risk he received for the choices he made.
Even so with us. We are born to always choose to live our lives. We are always faced with choices every day.
 I will continue the other next week's chapter
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