The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F Chapter 6-7

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Chapter 6 : We’re Wrong about Everything

Since childhood, we are taught to always be confident in ourselves so we can be confident. However, Mark Manson had other thoughts. Instead we must question that belief in ourselves. What do I believe is correct? What if what I believe is wrong? if I am wrong, what is the worst thing that will happen to me? What can I learn if I am wrong? After I found out I was wrong, would I be better than me who didn't make a mistake? And I think, with it it seems like you want to know whether we are wrong or right, avoid us from feeling the right because we believe that what we believe may be wrong.

Chapter 7 : Failure is The Way Forward

There are several parts that I underline in this chapter

“If you’re stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.”

So, don't wait for motivation to do something. when it fails, do something. Just do it even though we don't know where we are going to take it. just do it even though we don't know whether what we are doing is right or wrong. The same is true when we take part in a marathon competition. When we feel tired and want to give up, run, or maybe walk. Even though we don't know what our strength is, walk. Just keep moving forward. If you like writing, then at one point you are stuck, run out of ideas and don't know what to write. Get up, turn on your computer or open your book. Write it, even though we don't know what we write is good or not. just write. Because from there we will know the power of a word "Do something!".

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The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A f chapter 3-5

I would like  to continue review "the subtle art of not giving A f" from chapter 3 until chapter 5 

chapter 3 :  You are not special
in this chapter beginning with jimmy's self-confident story and even too much self-confidence, he is too positive about himself in a book called "Entitlement" that the personality always considers himself great and he feels he must be treated special and also thinks that the world will always work for himself without doing anything.
The author writes that the personality has 2 types:
1. Feeling himself great and others not, then I get special treatment
2. Feeling someone else is great and I am not, so I get special treatment.
Even though it looks different, the point is to want a special treatment. In the manson novel, Jimmy's personality, including number 1 and Mark Manson, exemplifies himself for the second category. He has past traumas related to drugs, families who experience bankruptcy, divorce from parents, so he feels he needs special treatment. But in the end he realized that entitlement was a problem and not good for him.
In my opinion, Mark tries to explain that life treats us, no matter who we are. When we have a problem, it is very likely that everyone has experienced it in the past, or is experiencing the same problem at this time, and may also experience it in the future. Of course in a different form but the same core. This is the highlight of this chapter.

Chapter 4: the value of suffering
The highlight of this chapter is understanding the values we hold. If we want to change how we see a problem, we must change the value we hold and the size of the value itself. And we are also invited to understand which values are good and which values are bad.
When we face difficulties, we can apply the Self-awareness onion method to ourselves. Try to peel each layer of what actually happened. If the values that we believe are good values, then we will see that the difficulties we face today are something that is good for us and will have a positive impact on us. Because self-improvement itself is prioritizing better values, and choosing which things we should make our attention. Because when you give better, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

Chapter 5: You are Always Choosing
In chapter 5, Mark tells the story of William James who has physical limitations and his life is always arranged by his father. Up to one point where he rebelled and chose to live his life regardless of what his father wanted. He decided to responsible for his life. Whatever he chooses for his life he will do and bear all the risks.
Everyone is responsible for his life, no matter what happens around us. This principle is done by William James. Whether for mistakes or not, he will be responsible for the life he chooses. He does not choose to be born imperfect, but he must continue to live his life like everyone else. He also chose to drop out of medical school at Harvard and go on an adventure to the Amazon jungle, still he chose it and responsible of his choices. He knew his father would be angry and choose not to go home, then he chose it. He faced every risk he received for the choices he made.
Even so with us. We are born to always choose to live our lives. We are always faced with choices every day.
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The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F

Author: Mark Manson
Publish: September 13, 2016
Page: 224 (English)
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self-help

Synopsis
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Review
Hello all. This time I will review the book written by Mark Manson entitled "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck". Well the title sounds so rude, but the contents can give us a lot of insight. This book is a self-improvement book whose language is easy to understand. from this book I learned don't judge a book by its cover
Overall, this book tries to comfort us from failure and even though we fall we'll still be okay. So for those of you who may be experiencing failure or desperate, reading and understanding this book is very helpful to see a problem from a different perspective. And don't be surprised if a lot of the impolite impressions that Mark uses in explaining things because it is a characteristic of Mark Manson's writing.
in each chapter Mark Manson usually gives a picture by telling a true story whether he experienced it himself or someone else. So, we can more easily understand the intent of each of the writings he delivered

Chapter 1 : don't try
Beginning with the story of Bukowski, he was a novelist who began to peak in his career in his 50s. He managed to publish 6 novels, hundreds of poems, and sell more than two million copies. But the story of his life is not far from alcohol, drugs, gambling, and women. Even though he is a successful writer, He is actually a loser. The success he achieved was not able to transform himself into a better person.
In my opinion, Manson tries to distinguish between success and self-improvement. As he wrote in his book.
Self-Improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the same thing.

Success doesn't guarantee someone to be better. An example is Bukowski. The community paradigm of success is always associated with material. Success is a high-paying job, a good car, a nice house, a beautiful / handsome wife / girlfriend. Better money, more money, more possession, more than this and that. So, in the end we focus on having higher-paying jobs, becoming more popular, having more of this and that. Focus to be more. Actually there is nothing wrong with having more material or physical, but the problem is too focused to be more. Too much care about the standard of success is not good for us. Because we will dedicate our lives to success and satisfaction, which is not guaranteed guarantee and make us a better person.
The highlight of this chapter is when it explains that a good experience is a bad experience. And the bad experience itself is a good experience. Well, he wrote it like this (who knows our interpretation is different).
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience itself a positive experience”

Suppose we want to be rich. The more we want to be rich, the more we feel poor, the more we feel the lack of how much money we make. Or the more we want to be beautiful, the more we feel ugly, even though maybe we already look beautiful or we are not bad. That is, we do not feel grateful for what we have. When we accept what we have now or when we can still accept a failure, isn't that better than being obsessed with being someone more?
In this chapter, Mark explains why we must be smart in choosing which ones we deserve to be concerned about and which ones we should ignore. Because not all things deserve our attention, especially when we experience a problem or difficulty (negative experiences).

Chapter 2: Happiness is a problem
Well, in this second chapter Mark Manson argues that life is a form of misery and happiness that results from resolving the problem / misery itself. The rich are miserable with their wealth and the poor are miserable with their poverty. But that doesn't mean the misery that everyone feels is the same, some misery is certainly more painful than others. But he tried to explain that everyone's life could not be avoided from difficulties, misery or pain. Because the pain of an experience teaches us to give attention to our former self and the carelessness that we do. Having trouble is not the wrong thing. Having trouble and pain benefits us to connect with the reality that is around us.
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one”

So, as long as we live, we will continue to face problems and difficulties. And never expect to live without problems, except hoping for life filled with problems that can make us better. Instead we have to ask ourselves when we feel we have never experienced difficulties. And happiness will come when we can solve problems. happiness is a form of action, activity, not something that suddenly comes to us without cause. Happiness is a response to what we do. And happiness requires struggle. Isn't it necessary to get the sweet mango from the tree we plant? We must diligently water it when the tree is still in the shape of a seed planted in the ground, giving it fertilizer, keeping the fruit from being stolen?

So is it clear that happiness basically consists of problems?
So, these 2 chapters underlie our understanding as to why we should be clever to choose which ones will focus on our lives and which ones we need to ignore because we will damage ourselves if we care about the next chapter I will write next week.

THE MARTIAN - The occupant of mars

Original Title: The Martian
Author: Andy Weir
520 page thickness
First Print of 2015
ISBN 978-602-03-2439-5

SYNOPSIS

Six soles ago, astronaut Mark Watney became one of the first people to set foot on Mars. Now he is sure to be the first to die there. Sol is a calculation of days on Mars. 1 sol equals 24 hours 23 minutes earth time.

At Sol 6 of Ares 3's mission, a terrible storm occurred so that the crew was forced to cancel their mission and return to earth. But what is the power, when on the way to the MAV (Mars Ascent Vehicle) that will bring them back to Earth, Mark Watney is hit by an antenna. There is even an antenna part that is stuck. Mark was left on Mars by his colleagues, who thought he was killed during a sandstorm.

Apparently Mark was not killed after being knocked down and pierced by an antenna, the thickened blood turned out to withstand an air leak from Mark Watney's space clothing. Now he is alone on Mars. Fortunately, the Hab (a kind of sophisticated camp where they live) still stands firm.
Although Hab still stands tall, but there is no means to send signals or communicate with the earth. Inevitably Mark Watney must survive until the next mission and the rescue team arrives. Food supplies will certainly not be enough until the rescue team arrives. Very likely Mark Watney will be the first person killed on Mars.

But Mark didn't want to give up yet. Armed with his technical skills and creativity — plus a sense of humor that proved to be the source of his greatest strength — he began a mission to survive, plant potatoes to eat, and even devise a crazy plan to contact NASA on Earth. Mark Watney is a Botanist and also has expertise in machines (engineers). Indeed these two things are things that turned out to be very important for their survival on Mars and Mark Watney was very grateful for those skills.


Barriers to obstacles overcame it, and Mark began to believe he could get out of Mars alive - but the planet turned out to save a lot of surprises for him.

Reading this The Martian novel is really exciting. You could say a pleasant reading experience.

At first I thought the story offered by The Martian was a story of a struggle for survival that was heavy, dark and tense. I also guessed that I would be presented with a story with a spectacular action and maybe added a little fantasy spice (eg monsters on Mars or a very stressful disaster). But of course I was wrong. Read Mark's story on Mars like reading a diary of a scientist who likes trials and recklessness, and his research journals.

The Martian can be said as a guidebook on how to survive on Mars. Many scientific explanations, both Mathematics, Physics, Chemistry, Astronomy, Biology, Botany and so on. It's really very potential to be very boring.


But, it turns out The Martian is not boring like other journals. The Martian, surprisingly and unexpectedly, is really fun to read. Even a few times I laughed, when I read Mark's story made funny by Mark's own actions and words. Indeed, for very technical and detailed explanations I sometimes read it quickly. There's even a description of counting, addition, how to get the air I read at a glance without really trying to understand. As Watney said in this book, why are you dizzy thinking about it? He is also like talking to the reader that he explains it easily and readily is understood by the reader.

Mark Watney, by Andy Weir - the author, is described as someone who is truly humorous. Even its pleasant nature is the advantage it has. This is what really helps this book to fall into boring reading. When Mark Watney speaks to himself, or when he is encouraging and entertaining himself, it is often humorous.

Reading the early chapters of The Martian can be said to still feel rather flat, something different has not yet arisen. However, the story slowly becomes interesting. Besides Mark Watney's own life story on Mars, there are also stories about NASA and the parties involved to save Watney when it was discovered that he survived. In addition, the story of the other Mark Watney crew also gets the right portion of the story.

Btw, I read The Martian after watching the film first. If you want to compare the two are good. Both the film and the book are both very satisfying and each has its advantages and disadvantages.

The book is certainly more complete and detailed than the film. Mark Watney's character was far more funny and humorous in his book. In the film Watney's character is not as funny as his book.
However, for the final part of the story, I prefer the ending of the film version. Both books and movies have a good ending, but the final part of the film seems to me more emotional. There are some parts that are changed and I like it more.

After finishing reading the book, immediately want to watch the film again.

Well, this review might not give a lot of pictures about The Martian itself. But, from my advice, you can immediately take this book and read it immediately. Enter and enjoy adventurer Mark Watney on Mars.

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